Anger Management Coaching
Anger is an emotion that is often stigmatized in our society. Many of us are taught that being angry is unhealthy and that we should try to suppress this emotion. But anger—just like happiness, love, and fear—is perfectly healthy and natural, and we can’t help but feel angry from time to time.
Humans experience a broad spectrum of emotions and none of them are good or bad—they’re just emotions. Cutting ourselves off from feeling something means denying the human experience.
So why does anger have such a bad reputation? In short, anger itself isn’t the problem. It’s how we express it. When we behave in destructive, hurtful, and aggressive ways, we lose the ability to control or manage our emotions.
If this sounds familiar, I’m here to help! My name is Roula Badis and I’m an experienced anger management coach in Montreal. I’m here to tell you that you can turn your anger from a destructive force that could harm you or maybe others into an empowering energy to reveal your true potential.
But first, let’s take a closer look at your anger to better understand it and listen to what it has to tell you.
What Is Anger?
Anger is a response to what we perceive as disrespectful, demeaning, threatening, or neglectful stimuli. The stimuli can come from either an external source (such as getting cut off in traffic) or an internal source (brooding over an issue in your life). And like other emotions, being angry triggers a biological response.
When we’re in the throes of anger and lack anger management coping skills, blood pressure rises (hence the phrase “making someone’s blood boil”), the heart rate speeds up, and adrenaline levels spike. In other words, your body has undergone a physiological change called the “fight-or-flight response.”
With anger, you might lose control and say or do things that you’ll regret later. Guilt may hunt you after, affecting your self-image, which draws you into a vicious circle of low vibrational emotions. Without anger control techniques, anger can wreak havoc on your life.
What is the Process of Getting Angry?
Signs You May Need Anger Management Help:
- You sweat the small stuff and every small perceived sleight or threat makes you see red.
- Your anger doesn’t seem to go away long after the triggering event.
- You lash out in expressions of rage that can lead to punching walls, shouting abuse at others or being physically violent with people.
- You constantly feel angry, and others may have noticed it by now.
- You blame other people for your problems.
- You express your anger in passive-aggressive ways, such as being mean, ignoring someone, getting back at the person without telling them why, etc.
What Triggers Our Anger?
We are all different. We come from different cultural and family backgrounds that have shaped our personal experiences in various ways. What triggers anger in one person may just feel like fleeting irritation for another. But generally, anger can be triggered by:
- Perceived judgment and criticism
- Any perceived threat or danger, whether its emotional or physical
- Perceived lack of respect or a personal affront
Excessive or extreme expressions of anger are often related to your own state of being such as:
- Low self-esteem and self-confidence
- Feeling unsafe (often stemmed by childhood hardship or growing up in an insecure household)
- Aggressive or indifferent behaviour or treatment from parents, friends, teachers, or childhood communities
- Fear of being judged for being angry
- Poor communication skills
- Childhood bullying
How Can an Anger Management Coach Help?
As an anger management coach in Montreal, I’m here to teach you healthy coping mechanisms and strategies for processing your anger using various techniques that can effectively help you controlling your anger. Not just that! But also shift it to a more positive power of self-awareness, self-love and self-respect
Effective Anger Management Techniques I Apply
- Neurolinguistic programming (NLP) and positive inner-dialogue building
- The ThetaHealing technique, which roots out your limiting mindset and transforms it into a more empowering one.
- EFT &TFT Tapping: tapping various locations on the body where negative emotions or blockages are stored in order to eradicate them and restore balance to your energy meridians.
- Meditation: specialized breathing that synchronizes your heart and brain, which facilitates gratitude and healing childhood hardships.
- Affirmation worksheets and exercises.
- Learning mindfulness and mindful behaviors and developing positive reactions
Visit our energy techniques page for more insights on these transformative strategies.
Skills and Abilities You’ll Learn through Anger Management Therapy in Montreal
- Identification of perceived threats, limitations, or fears
- Healthy communication skills
- The art of saying “no”
- Identification of boundaries and how to set them in healthy and constructive ways
- Setting manageable expectations
- Forgiveness of yourself and others
- Learning to live without judgment of others and yourself
- Learning to live with gratitude
Anger Management Therapy Sessions During COVID-19
In light of the global pandemic, it’s normal to feel a range of uncomfortable emotions. Fear, worry, stress, anger, and frustration are completely natural feelings during these uncertain times. COVID-19 has caused great upheaval in our daily routines, which may be triggering your anger.
If you find that you’re struggling to manage your anger, I’m here to help. While face-to-face sessions aren’t possible at this time, I’d be happy to set up video meetings via Zoom or Microsoft Teams. Of course, I will always be available via text, phone, or email.